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Lesson 10 — Choosing by Pattern, Not Chemistry
The trap
Attachment research describes a predictable loop: anxious pursuit meets avoidant withdrawal, and the intensity is mistaken for love. Intensity is activation, not compatibility.
What to look for
Consistency, repair after conflict, and comfort with your directly stated needs. These predict satisfaction better than any first-meeting spark.
The Test
All questions must be correct for the lesson to log.
1. The anxious-avoidant loop is often mistaken for:
2. The strongest early predictor of relationship satisfaction listed is: